Did She Say, “I’m pregnant”?
Two words and your whole life turns upside down. Feeling nervous, unsure, scared, confused, and angry is natural. What you do next could impact many people.
You can have a significant influence on the choice she makes. She makes the final decision, but you should explore your options too.
Here’s What You Should Do
1. Gather the Facts
Before you begin worrying about what decision she makes, confirm she is pregnant. Home tests are not always accurate. Ultrasound is the most reliable way to confirm a potential pregnancy. We offer referrals for a free ultrasound. Take time to find out your options and possible outcomes. Be sure to come to the appointment with her.
2. Support Her
Staying calm and helping her research the options is one of the best things you can do. Offer genuine support by letting her know you are there for her no matter what. She needs to feel heard and respected.
3. Take Responsibility
She didn’t get into this situation alone. You owe it to her and yourself to take Responsibility. Speak up and let her know your opinions and feelings. Keep the lines of communication open so you can agree with the final choice.
Here’s What You Shouldn’t Do
1. Run Away
Some men immediately disappear when they find out their partner is pregnant. They take the attitude that it’s her problem, not his. Don’t leave her to struggle with this decision alone. Stand by her.
2. Pressure Her
Your opinion matters, but don’t threaten or pressure her to make that choice. You both have to live with the outcome. She wants to know what you think, not what you demand.
3. Announce It To Others
An unexpected pregnancy is overwhelming enough without the added pressure of everyone asking questions. Respect her by not sharing this very personal information.